Be the Emotional Leader

You can choose to believe that everything in your relationship is “all up to you.”

But this story doesn’t feel good. And likely isn’t actually true.

I told this story for a long time.

You could also decide to be “the emotional leader” of your relationship and/or your family.

You could own and be happy with the opportunity to “set the tone.”

Many women feel like “its up to them to fix and organize everything” in their relationships.

These same women love to be in control and like leading.

They are exceptional at organization and they like to be in charge.

If we told a story where we were the leader in our relationships, we would feel much better.

If we told a story that we got to chose where we went on vacation or what to buy, we would feel better.

If we told stories where we were proud of our contributions rather then adopting a victim mentality, we would be happier.

And our relationships would improve.

If nothing else we would enjoy them more.

If we really don’t want to do things, we always have the choice to not to do them.

We can let others do them. And they very likely would.

We would then have to let go of how these things get done. They will 100% not do them the way we think they should.

What would shift for you if you chose to describe yourself as “the emotional leader” of your relationship or your family instead of the “one that does everything”?