Information Changes Lives

Figuring out that my husband was neurodivergent after 22 years of marriage allowed us both to function much better.  

Understanding that we were in a neurodiverse relationship helped us get to celebrate 30 years of marriage. 

The “not knowing” and not understanding our differences caused a lot of hurt, and confusion, and added an extra challenge to an already challenging situation

Knowing about our neurodiversity, led me to grow in ways I didn't know I needed or wanted to. 

And that growth has been life-changing for me. 

My husband is the same loving human he always has been with or without “a label.”

He is the one I fell in love with at age 16 not knowing anything about Aspergers or autism.  In 1984, autism was hardly spoken about at all. And kids who did well in school received no extra support or services. 

My husband's neurodivergence is a part of our journey and our story.  

All the perks and associated challenges.   It's also part of our family’s journey. 

Our kids have learned and grown in incredible ways from it.

Has the journey been easy- no.

It’s not supposed to be. 

Even marriages that look easy are hard. 

Knowing about our neurodiversity led us to a better marriage because I changed how I showed up.

Coaching and mindfulness helped me change how I showed up for me.

I wanted an easier relationship and more love and connection.

Once I figured out to navigate the good and bad of a neurodiverse marriage,  I had to share the tools and strategies.

These tools actually work for all marriages but helping women who are in challenging relationships with men who struggle with neurodiversity and/or mental health has become a personal passion.

“When you know better you can do better” - maya angelou 

With information as well as effective tools and strategies, relief, agency,  love, connection, and peace are possible.