It IS About You

I teach my clients that

most of the time

other people’s behaviors and reactions are “not about you.”

It’s not personal.

It’s about the other person’s inner struggle.

How you experience it though — is about you.

And it is in your control.

In my Parent with Presence program we discussed this quote:

How you react to your kids’ behavior has more to do

with how you are feeling

than what they are doing.

What’s in our control and our main job as a parent, partner, physician, and human

is to keep ourselves emotionally healthy

When we don’t,

we respond with angst, tension, resentment, frustration, and irritation….

Those around us feel it.

And it makes everything worse.

This is the magic of mindful coaching.

Our inner emotional un-wellness impacts others negatively.

Calm, grounded, peaceful, unrufflable, loving energy is powerful.

It is in our control.

Its attainable and learnable.

In my experience, most effectively achieved with a guide.

Showing up NOT people-pleasing or taking responsibility for how others perceive you or react.

It’s pleasing yourself.

And taking responsibility for your own emotional and physical health.

Best of all It feels better and it helps.