When you change, everything around you begins to change

Why Should You Be the One to Change In A Relationship?

Because you want things to change. 

We want our partners, and even colleagues and bosses and friends, and other family members to change so we can feel better.  I wanted this for a long time. Wanting this, asking for it, hoping for it and waiting, did not make things better.

When you leave the change to someone else there are lots of unknowns and lots of uncertainty.  

It’s out of your control. 

They may change or they may not. 

They may try to change and not end up changing in the way you think they “should.”  

They may change, perhaps even exactly how you thought they “should,” and you may or may not feel better. 

When you change yourself, you know you can feel better.  

And when you change, everything around you begins to change. 

This is usually a good thing when things haven't been going as you want them to.

Change is inevitable.  “Be the change you want to see” rather than being a ping pong ball reacting to whatever happens to come your way.