What is the lifetime value of improving your relationships?
At the end of their lives, most people say that the most important thing is their personal relationships.
And yet, our actions each day -and our monetary investments often do not align with this intention.
What is the lifetime value of improving your relationships?
What is the value of having easeful and connected relationships with those you love?
What is the value of finding calm, peace, harmony, and contentment?
There is a tremendous cost to anger, resentment, guilt, and constantly wishing someone else would change.
When we try to control things and people and focus on wanting their behavior to change, we expend valuable energy and time in inefficient and often counterproductive ways.
The only thing we can each can control in our love relationships is ourselves
and how we express our love.
“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past but by the love we are not extending in the present”
I hear from many that you are “inspired” by this blog.
That you have made changes as a result and feel better.
Many of you join me for yoga, start taking deeper breaths, longer walks,
and start to practice a little mindfulness.
After yoga most people feel “amazing”— relief, spacious, calm, so much better!
It’s possible to carry that “Savasana” feeling into the rest of your life, into your marriage, your parenting, your work, and even with yourself- wherever you are.
But it takes PRACTICE. Just like yoga.
It takes engaging in and doing the work- not just reading and listening.
What if you went all-in and did the work on your own inner thoughts and actually made changes?
What could happen for you?
What would love do?
Love would do this work.
Invest the time energy and money.
Love would not wait for a better time.
Your partner will thank you. Your children will thank you. You will thank yourself.
In my experience -- the thank you’s will be long before the end.
They will be in just a few weeks —when everything is already much better.
If you are done “waiting” for things to get better, done reading and listening about how things can get better, and are actually ready to make them better, reach out.
Big changes are possible.
Calm
Relief,
Space to breathe
Buoyancy
Better connections,
More love,
Less resentment,
Less anger,
Less frustration
And less guilt.
I say all this from a place of love.
In the spirit of February, love and heart health.
I didn’t “do” this work myself for a long time.
I thought I could do it just as well on my own.
And I made some progress.
But with a guide, the changes happen much faster
You find relief and life is better.
Love is better.
You feel better.
So I echo what my Stanford fellows tell their colleagues considering working with me -
“Just do it.”
Give yourself and your loved ones the best gift ever — more love, more peace, and more ease.