Who I Needed to Become

Recently I completed a huge project as part of my master coach training.

I wrote a book proposal for a book I want to write to submit to publishing houses.

In order to complete it, I had to become someone I hadn’t been before.

This process of becoming was hard and delightful all at the same time.

Much like coaching. I had to give up old beliefs and adopt new ones.

And of course, because I believe in coaching so much- I hired a coach to help me.

Getting help helps.

Who did I become in the process?

Someone who was willing to go all in on something way bigger than she thought possible for “someone like me.”

Someone who believed in myself the way someone else believed in me.

Someone who believed enough in the possibility of success, she was willing to hire someone who actually knew how to do this to help me actually do it.

I had to become someone willing to put in a lot of time, and effort, and potentially fail — despite my deeply rooted training to avoid failure at all costs.

I had to be willing to “borrow” and internalize someone else’s belief in my idea.

I was honestly blown away that someone thought my idea was of such value.

I had to trust someone else’s wisdom and skill and be willing to let them teach me a skill I didn’t have or even understand.

I had to be willing to do it wrong until I got it right.

There was a lot of that.

A very unfamiliar experience for those in medicine- in medicine you are not allowed to do it wrong and doing so recurrently was a huge problem. I had to let my doctor's brain go for awhile.

I had to be willing to let someone guide me through learning “a new language.”

I had to become someone who resisted everything less.

I thought I had mastered this - but there was still so much more for me there.

I needed to become someone who truly understood the steps and the process, and the why of what I take my coaching clients through as a coach.

I had to be able to explain my coaching process in a concise, organized, relatable, and enticing manner.

The product of this type of exploration was awesome- the process was not.

The hardest part for me was that I had to become someone who confidently and boldly explained who she is, why she is an expert, and why she belongs on a bookshelf.

The most lovely part was that I had to be my own test subject and practice every single method I teach to others on myself.

The awesome part was that the tools I teach and share worked yet again.

I also had to make loving decisions about how to handle the journey and the necessary steps and pivots.

I had to ask myself what would love do? Every single day.

I had to trust that slowing down to regroup, sift and sort, and integrate would get me “there” in the long run — even if it meant a different path in the shorter run.

In the end, I had to become someone who decided, in advance without any evidence,

that what I am creating will be amazing in the end.

This strategy is magic and got me to the end just in time.

I invite all of you to borrow some of these beliefs and strategies for your own life.

What might happen if you were willing to practice doing things wrong?

Learn a new language.

Believe in yourself and your ideas like someone else does.

Make loving decisions every day.

Stop resisting.

Know without a doubt that what you are doing is possible and work backward from success.

I can’t wait to see.

And if I can help you, as my coach helped me- please reach out.

“Getting help is not giving up. Its refusing to give up.” - Charley Mackasy