It's All Temporary

A year ago I wrote about parenting young adults in a pandemic being both messy and beautiful.

Noticing now that I have NO IDEA what felt so messy a year ago this week.

It is a reminder that buoyancy is the best approach.

It’s all temporary.

It usually works out in the end.

Young adult children and teenagers are wonderful and they don’t always do things as I think they should.

They are just like all people. And just like me.

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I am wonderful and I don’t always do things as they think I should.

People and life are messy and beautiful.

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When I remember that others, even when they are my children, get to make their own decisions. It is easier.

Their decisions are usually not about me.

It is what it is.

It’s exactly as it is supposed to be.

I can accept it and not like it.

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What’s in my control is:

what I chose to think about their decisions.

what I decide to say

and what I decide to do.

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I like to ask myself-

What would love do?

What would compassion do?

What do I want to do here, about this, today?

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Not what do I think I should want to do.

Or what do I want them to do.

But what I actually want to do.

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My answer this week is want to be mindful and intentional.

Intentionally show up,

authentically and with love.

Without judgment.

Accept and allow.

Take deep breaths.

Be curious.

And show grace and compassion, for me, and for them.

From here it’s much easier to find humor, love, and connection.