Grace and Compassion
Relationships and family “should” be wonderful.
But it doesn’t always work out that way.
We want it to be wonderful.
And then someone does and says something often inadvertently that leads to a challenge.
Afterward, we all “wish it had gone better.”
We love our daughters and our moms, our sons, our parents, our in-laws, and our spouses.
And often these relationships are messy.
We are all a work in progress.
Perfectly imperfect.
This thought leads to grace and compassion.
When we treat ourselves and others with grace and compassion, life and our relationships are much better.
We usually do the best we can “in the moment.” And usually those we love do too.
We feel guilt, shame, and frustration when how we showed up wasn’t what we hoped for and didn’t lead to where we wanted to go.
We feel anger when those we love show up in ways we or they wish they hadn’t.
Grace and compassion helps a ton.
It is normal to wish we had done better.
It is normal to wish they had done better.
Being ok with what actually happened is a learned practice.
What if it was "mostly good” ? “Good enough” or “a little messier than we would like.”
I still have family moments even after all my mindfulness and coaching.
Many less than I used to. But it’s not zero.
Family moments are expected.
Expecting perfection, peace, and connection ALL the time is not a reality, especially in families.
I can want it to have gone better.
And when it doesn’t I can choose to NOT resist the fact that it didn’t.
Radical Acceptance is hard for me.
The twist that works for me—> allowing myself to accept AND NOT LIKE.
The AND gives me my power back.
The AND helps me feel grounded and in control.
Things don’t always need to be fixed.
They don’t need to be perfect or have gone well.
Grace and compassion for everyone make the frustration flow through and out much more easily.
The disruption is much less. And the buoyancy more.
Life is messy and beautiful.
Love is messy and beautiful.
What would love do?
Keep it simple.
Keep loving. Mindfully and lovingly.
And show up with grace and compassion