Deliberate Love

We talk about “falling” in love and “being” in love.  And that part does feel amazing.  

But there is also “deliberate love.”

Deliberate love is choosing love. And you can choose to show up with it- always. That’s what love would do.

When we love deliberately we get to enjoy love, create love, make love, notice love and receive love. 

And that feels amazing, sustainable, and wonderful.

Deliberate love is focusing on what you love about those you love.

Focusing on what works in your marriage. Noticing what feels good and doing more of it. Noticing what is good. Even and especially if your husband is neurodivergent.

You could choose to focus on what could be better. That’s what most of us do by default. Especially in a neurodiverse marriage.

We make what is already hard even harder.

We constantly notice what those we love should or could do differently.

How they did not remember the thing we told them or asked them to do.

And all the times they didn't help out or do it the way we wanted them to.

What we don’t understand about them.

Their annoying habits.

This is our default habit and it gets in the way of love.

Deliberate love is strategic, loving, and an investment in your own happiness and love.

It creates peace and space. 

In that space is where connection and love can grow and regrow.

It makes more room for love.

I encourage you to give it a try.