There are no prizes for the most suffering

Our culture glorifies suffering and “hard” work.

In medicine, we were taught that hard is better.

Struggle and sacrifice made things worthwhile or significant accomplishments.

Self-sacrifice, even to the degree of self-harm, makes the work nobler and more valuable.

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These beliefs are also common in motherhood and also in marriage.

Hard is not actually better. It is just hard.

Struggling is not better. It is just struggling

More is not better, it is merely more.

Hard, struggle, and suffering are part of the human condition, but our human tendency to join in collective suffering and celebrate them and/or invite them in is optional.

What if we now began joining in collective honoring, celebrating, and valuing-

easy

smooth

less

love

self-care

rest

sleep

nourishing ourselves

being content

connecting with ease

enjoying

What might our lives feel like? And what might our world look like?

I have pivoted to this approach. It definitely takes some work to get there and some getting used to when you do.

There is discomfort in the adjustment.

And then it feels much much much better.

Would you like to join me?