Dropping Your Barriers
“Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
—Rumi
This quote has become one of my favorite reminders.
Not because love is hard to find… but because letting it in can be surprisingly hard.
Even when love is present.
Even when you have a good partner.
Even when life looks “fine” from the outside.
The work in relationships is often to allow more love, more joy, and more of the full-spectrum experience of love in.
When you drop your barriers, there is so much more there.
The tricky part is that we don’t always know we have barriers
I wasnt even aware I had barriers until recently.
Barriers are often disguised as:
busyness, producivity, responsibility
a real or perceived issue with your partner
old stories
resentments
“what ifs” running in the background
a lack of feeling deserving
a nervous system that is always braced
Coaching and mindfulness helped me see more of my barriers and begin to let them go.
Pausing and being present was the first step. Then the work became noticing—gently—and peeling away the barriers with intention and compassion.
Not force. Not self-judgment.
Curiosity. Truth. Kindness.
I’m not alone in needing to work on this.
It isn’t easy. It takes practice. And a guide—makes the process so much steadier.
A life even better lived awaits…
for me,
and for you.
If you want support removing the barriers that block connection—especially in high-stress or neurodiverse dynamics—this is exactly what we practice in Mindful Love: