Many are not feeling ok right now.

So much pain and hardship in the practice of medicine right now.

Sending love and compassion to each and every one of my colleagues in medicine.

“Do not ask your children

to strive for extraordinary lives.

Such striving may seem admirable,

but it is the way of foolishness.

Help them instead to find the wonder

and the marvel of an ordinary life.

My to-do list became a birthday list or a “gift” to myself list.

Next week is my birthday and what I most wanted I realized when I listened to my heart- was to NOT have a lot of stuff on my to-do list. To declutter the to-do list.

To have the peace and freedom that would come from having it done.

So I changed my to-do list- to a birthday list.

One I would do FOR ME as a gift.

Eat happy. Get a routine baggy enough to live in. Be kind.

Accept that not everyone will like you. Appreciate those who do.

As humans, without mind management, we tend to focus on the negative, our differences, and what is not working. Many of us also have a lot of tendencies to blame -ourselves and others, and quickly revert to guilt, shame, victimhood, anger, and resentment. Coaching helps you shift your perspective, ask better questions, build self-compassion, and find peace with your decisions and path forward whatever they may be. Coaching sets you up for success and peace.

When we lean into the beauty of the good we have in our relationships, we experience more good.

There are lots of different models of amazing and worthwhile relationships in this world. Without a doubt, every relationship is missing something. When we let go of comparisons with others' relationships, those who we perceive may have more of what we think we want, and we enjoy our own more.

Could you resist the urge to believe there is a relationship out there that would be better and make you happier?

Could you trust the you who chose this relationship when you chose it?

What if you choose to tell a story about it that feels good and helps you enjoy your life?

So grateful for all that you have given me. I continue to learn who I am, and what I want.

I am not waiting for someone else to get me where I want to go I am here, right now, and living, breathing, and recognizing. I remember 50/50 often, but also focus on the legacy I want to leave behind, and have way less "shoulds."

When you don't connect with your passion you are for sure uncomfortable. The desire to follow your passion may lead you to change something in your life. Or the passion for what you are already doing may be hidden just under the surface- masked by your thoughts and the busyness of life.

What if you “unbecame” all that you were not, let go of striving, and instead chose to be soft, gentle, spacious, buoyant?

It's helpful to have a coach who has experienced your training, and who has insight into the medical culture. It doesn't solve all your problems, but it will help you to see yourself as more capable and leave behind perspectives that limit your perception of your self-worth and your capacity to improve.”

Sometimes life throws out a lot of swirl.

And pausing and being present in the swirl is part of the journey.

Rushing to solve and fix and decide is tempting but it often means you miss the offered lesson and growth.

It takes more than trying or wishing things were different. It can start with one deep breath but to truly shift it takes more than listening to a drop-in session or attending a single yoga session. It takes stepping out of old patterns and learning a new way. And then “practicing ” it regularly.

When the work of transformation comes from a place of love and inspiration the toll feels less costly. The results often feel so good that the “toll” fades quickly and/or is hardly appreciated.

Another toll road that we often discount is the one where we don’t make a change. Not doing the work and staying stuck also has a cost. This road is the one we most often don’t appreciate as having a toll.

Breathing deeply and channeling my inner zen and buoyancy. Even on round 3 of parenting a teenager -as a wise pediatrician with mindfulness and coaching tools deeply rooted within — the journey is a journey.

This past week I have all of sudden gotten many questions about my career pivot. How could I make a change away from something with so many benefits - for me and for others? Why would I do that? What was wrong with it?

Another yoga thing… AND, as usual, it applies to life off your mat.

I was inspired to share this after a conversation with my dear friend and colleague Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang last week.

I had a down day the day we spoke.

She encouraged me to share my down day.