Experiencing joy requires presence.

It requires allowing. It requires receiving. It requires vulnerability.

And letting go. It is a full-body experience.

One that often moves you to tears.

When you change yourself, you know you can feel better.

When you do the changing,

you get to choose what and how to change.

You have agency and are back in the driver’s seat of your own experience of your life and your relationships.

This feels better.

When you change, everything around you begins to change and shift. The energy of your relationships and situations shifts.

If we realize that inherently things are both good and bad and, for the most part, 50/50 —we can use this to our advantage. We can focus on what is in our control- how we experience the 50/50. This is how we shift the balance and impact our lived experience of our one “wild and precious life.”

What if you stopped waiting for something or sometime in the future and instead started living your life more fully today? Even in the midst of who knows what, what if you chose to make all 7 days of your week extraordinary in some way —right now? What if you intentionally experienced some true joy and connection in each one? What if you decided to be better together? With all the people in your life? This work is the preventive care for a happy, healthy, connected, and joyful life and relationships.

Barriers may be disguised as busyness, a real or perceived issue with your partner, old stories, resentments, “what’s ifs” in your mind, sometimes even a lack of feeling of deserving in yourself.

Coaching and mindfulness have helped me see more of my barriers and begin to let them go.

Pausing and being present was the first step. Then the work was to notice and begin to peel away the barriers with mindful intention and compassion.

As humans, without mind management, we tend to focus on the negative, our differences, and what is not working. Many of us also have a lot of tendencies to blame -ourselves and others, and quickly revert to guilt, shame, victimhood, anger, and resentment. Coaching helps you shift your perspective, ask better questions, build self-compassion, and find peace with your decisions and path forward whatever they may be. Coaching sets you up for success and peace.

When we lean into the beauty of the good we have in our relationships, we experience more good.

There are lots of different models of amazing and worthwhile relationships in this world. Without a doubt, every relationship is missing something. When we let go of comparisons with others' relationships, those who we perceive may have more of what we think we want, and we enjoy our own more.

Could you resist the urge to believe there is a relationship out there that would be better and make you happier?

Could you trust the you who chose this relationship when you chose it?

What if you choose to tell a story about it that feels good and helps you enjoy your life?

There will be perspective-shifting, healing, and self-compassion growing. My classes are designed to help address collective anxiety, improve mood, and begin to soften the fraying of our nervous systems. All desperately needed at this moment by so many of us.

Doing the work on you and your own mind can help you find a harmonious place in your relationships even when the other person - teen- young adult or otherwise- isn’t in a space to be able to or doesn’t want to make changes.

Accepting and allowing your teens, young adult children, and partners- as they are and you as you are — with “grace and compassion.” is a beautiful strategy.

We are all imperfect and “a work in progress.”

Your relationship with your adult children is longer than your relationship with your children as kids and there is a lot of time to get it right and wrong. And it usually turns out fine either way.

There is no failure just learning. Sometimes there is more learning when it doesn't go right than when it does.

Mindfulness and coaching have helped me become a much better parenting teammate. Supporting your teammates and playing to their strengths is a great strategy. Micromanaging and criticizing usually don't lead to the best team experience or results.

Most people can IMMEDIATELY think of something —even if it feels “unusual” or not clearly explainable. It is often a restaurant, a small shop, or a place you felt immediately “home” but didn’t know why. Envy isn’t necessarily a “bad” thing.

So grateful for all that you have given me. I continue to learn who I am, and what I want.

I am not waiting for someone else to get me where I want to go I am here, right now, and living, breathing, and recognizing. I remember 50/50 often, but also focus on the legacy I want to leave behind, and have way less "shoulds."

Nourishment is a prerequisite for transformation. Being the best possible parent, spouse, friend, doctor, colleague, and contributor to a better world are not possible from a place of depletion.

There are many ways to nourish yourself. Healthy food is but one.

When you don't connect with your passion you are for sure uncomfortable. The desire to follow your passion may lead you to change something in your life. Or the passion for what you are already doing may be hidden just under the surface- masked by your thoughts and the busyness of life.

I like to coach in from the feeling line because it is where I see the most powerful and transformative mindset shifts from a place of ease rather than force or pushing.

This past week the shifts in predominant feelings after 5 days of mindful coaching and nourishing yoga at my retreat were inspiring and honestly led me and others to tingles….

Focus on the feelings. They are your experience. They are your guideposts to create the life of your dreams.